When I ask my friends what was their first impression of me, they would say that I'm like snobbish, masungit, antipatica, and i'm like i'm in a higher level than them or way better than them.
I'm happy when I hear this. The thought that I intimidate people is flattering. But of course this is only what people perceive of me the first time they meet me. When you really get to know me I'm the total opposite.

You ask, why? I say, maybe because there are times when insecurities tend to over ride me, that I would have to let out to this certain aura that will make certain people scared to judge me in a scrutinizing way. And this way I come out as mysterious which tends to make people to be intrigued about me. It would make them want to get to know me more, they would find it very challenging.

Now when me and my friends talk about the first time that we met, they would just laugh. They would say "Astig ka talaga, na loko mo kami!"

How about you?

Soldier Of Chaos, is that what you thought I was, when you first met me? What was your first impression of me? I never knew.

[ January 19, 2003: Message edited by: SoPHist ]

I have the same aura. I find it more convenient to have a first impression like that (***** Goddess Supreme!), this is because on the first instance you become nice or friendly there's sort of a revelation. People would immediately say or think "Ay! mabait pala siya!". Rather than have a goody-goody image all the nice things you'd do would be downplayed, ignored.

well, aamin ako. at first, you're so taray and antipatika. parang all you ever think about is JMR. hehe. first impression: mahilig makipagsabunutan. labo noh?

well, those who do not know me feel na parang ang dami kong tinatagong sikreto. parang ang straight forward ko daw masyado. parang papatay daw ako ng tao kung makatingin.

parang lang...parang...

people look at me in a very negative way... because i really express my feeling verbally. if i don't like you, I REALLY will not like you... but if i do like you, well, there is a great chance that we will be friends... but still, we can never tell. even if i'm a guy, people say that i am mataray... suplado... or whatever. i'm just so moody. dunno why! i'm not pikon naman...

people hate me, that's it!

I just don't talk when I'm not spoken too. That's why people think that I'm mataray and war freak. I could be though if I have a reason or if someone really stepped on me (big time). when i'm mad... I'M REALLY MAD.

first impression ng guyz: mataray & suplada
first impression ng girls: mataray & *****y
when they got to know me, SOBRANG layo ng first impression nila sa REAL ATTITUDE ko..in fact before,majority sa mga people na kilala ako (by face & name lng, not personally)naging kaaway ko (not as in,but were not friends either..), pro ngaun we're all GOOD FRIENDS..mejo katawa nga eh..

the more i tease you, the more i like you=) hehe.

Carino brutal, eh?

AYON pala ang tawag don. Thanks man.

teka.. ano ba to?

first impressions ng iba sayo? or.. yung defense mechanism?

it just so happens that most of the time you bring out your defense mechanism to people you barely know. it occurs in the first few meetings... hence first impression. in my case i intimidate them so they'll be scared of saying scrutinizing things about me.

defense mechanism ko?

---> I DON'T CRY IN PUBLIC

it gives a lot of people the "wrong" impression about me, so usually, i cry when i'm alone.

I used to be like that too... but this past year was an emotional roller coaster for me so I cried a lot. But i'm trying to get back to that old image of mine...

I don't believe a word of it, but most of the people who know me said mukha daw akong serial killer...

I asked them how a serial killer should look like. May black bonnette? Eyebags? Evil laugh?

Hindi daw, dapat daw katulad ko. inconspicious, with a friendly smile. ANd behind the dark brown eyes, a glint of madness

...mga bwisit lahat ng kakilala ko...

hey SoPHist..pareho pla tayo..

people tend to say na im so mataray and snobbish that's why they don't approach me easily.

but when they do, they'll find out na i'm not all that snobbish and taray. (although I can really be.

raising my nakakasindak na eyebrows is my defense mechanism.
it works!

in addition to that, tinatarayan ko talaga yung mga tao.

evective, very effective :cool:

My defense mechanism I guess is my being quiet.

Defense mechanism?

In public, trying to look snobbish comes to mind.

Sa cyberspace... Ever heard of role-playing?


~Thornclaw... What you see is not always what you get.

I dunno if it's a defense mechanism or whatnot, but so far total strangers who meet me say that I'm a lively happy picks-you-up sorta fellow.

Now the thing here that absolutely gets my goat is that my close friends say I'm an optimistic cynic.

And there I go, "eyng?"-ing all the way.

i think mine would be sour graping...

you see, i'm a very jelus gurl when it cums to my crushes and suitors... i'd tell my friends that i don't care who they are with but deep inside i'd really like to steal them from who they are with... especially if the other girl seems to like him a lot...

hhmmm....ano nga ba ung akin...hhhmm...siguro....defense mech ko...when kakakilala palang ng other people...is....hhmmm.....TAHIMIK.

im not quiet kasi eh....and I'M SO CORNY.lahat ng hirit ko...olats...so para hindi mahalata....i keep quiet muna.....

My ultimate defense mechanism would have to be anger and silence. Anger is a very intense emotion therefore overlaps other emotions that might expose such vulnerabilities as when you're hurting and in pain. Silence blends you with the backdrop rather than draws even the slightest attention to you. Therefore silence avoids any repurcussions.
Most of the time when I'm angry (and I could probably speak generally) I am hurting for someone or something has done me wrong. And when I am silent (or something I'd like to refer to as my "invisible mode), either means I do not want any involvement with a current situation or if within a situation, it's a way of hiding or escaping from what might and could hurt me.

I forgot to include my congratulations to SoPHist. Kudos, honey! This thread (topic) is very intelligent and clever. I wish there had been more topics as stimulating as this that would come up in the near future.

nakanaman..

sikat talaga itong si sophist..

Yeah baby! Sophist, this is a very nice thread, kudos to you!

My defense mechanism is my objectifying gaze, whoever is in front of me. I don't know, I just can't get myself out of this habit and people are quite intimidated when I look at them as if I'm trying to measure their individual worth just by looking at them.

My Grave I Dug, Bury Me and Lesgedrene thank you.

and Skeptic as always you baffled me again. But thank you too.

SoPHist...

Huwag lalaki ang ulo ha?

Sure ba! Ikaw din. But this forum can be one hell of an ego trip, that I could say. At first it was very tempting to let it all get into my head but when Mr. Dormer made a thread about me... as weirdas it may sound... it made me humble... maybe because I was really sincerely touched. Right now all i can say is that I'm having fun with you guys... may you say nice or scrutinizing things about me.

[ September 06, 2002: Message edited by: SoPHist ]

Defence Mechanism? all i can say is the first time my classmates and my friends met me they thought i was a weird scary, siga type of peson. but when we talk of what they thought of the first time we all met we always say, "sobrang layo ng first impression ko sa iyo sa kung sino ka talaga."

I go through a host of emotions that the people around me can not figure out what to do with me.

But usually, I just keep to myself and think things out.

Defense Mechanism? The first impression of most people I know always think that they got me figure out already. To my classmates like I said in my english class, "my favorite cartoom character is the mask because of his different personalities." The only person who truly know who I am is my sister.

Once you think you know me think again. I can be the person you would never think I'd be.

i don't speek unless spoken to..
i don't acknowledge unless called upon..
i just mind my own business..
silent with a blank/poker face..

but when i feel comfortable or so i feel like i can trust them.. ibang tao na ang makikita nyo.. dito na lumalabas ang "kapokpokan" ko..

ul really hate me: pahiram muna ha?!

siguro yung defense mech ko ay yung "silent tapos poker face".. e1 ganyan lang talaga ako..

It can sometimes be funny, or depressing when some of the insignificant others in your life underestimate or even exaggerate who I really am. Some people have mistaken me for being snobbish because I hardly speak when I am not being talked to. I am not the type who would easily come up with an anecdote to keep you interested in me, or tell you my whole life story so that you can be my friend. It is very rare for you to find me laughing my head out with someone I am not comfortable with, and in case you do, just keep in mind that I am a great actor. Moreover, people find me very conceited because of what they call “a stuck-up attitude” that I have. On the contrary, I believe that I am very humble, and I never talk about my achievements just to keep you looking up to me. People who think of me as somewhat narcissistic are the ones who have this crab-mentality. They will try to pull you down as hard as they can for them to be on top. Lastly, among many misconceptions about me, some people perceive me that I am a very fastidious critic. I must admit that I can be tactless sometimes, because I can not help it. I do not care of what others do, and I do hardly speak up, but when I do, you will feel the wrath of my words. I just won’t tolerate any offensive remarks or abusive comments. If you deserve to be condemned for what you did, well so be it. Indeed, you can not please everybody, and you do not have to.

b4... i wan really insecure 'bout most things... my defense mechanism was to "change a part of me" so that i can ride more freely with the flow...

i guess... time will eventually be the best teacher!

a lot of people think i'm "masungit" even with close acquintances if there is such a thing. but i can be one noisy and loud person when i'm with my inner circle of friends...it's like this i'll be cracking jokes, telling stories and laughing out loud with my close group, but when an unfamiliar person joins in, i suddenly clam up...guess that's just the way i am...

i have two opposite defense mechanism.
one is i just keep quiet or lock myself in the room till i feel alittle better so that people wont have to see me. or i show everyone im estatic. be makulit and hyper in that way they also wouldnt know thee is something wrong..

i got the same reaction from EVERYONE. mataray, sungit, not approachable, etc. and also like you, i usually will NOT talk to someone unless he/she talks to me first.

but once my friends got to know me i'm not too taray naman daw. i'm not naman eh! but when i get angry, i get REALLY angry...
:mad:

but i'm nice naman eh really! heehee...

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I don't think being quiet is a defense mechanism... it's "human nature"...

Iba't ibang timplada bawat tao!

"WALA BA KAYONG MGA KAMAY!!!"

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Carinyo? Carinya? **** !!!

Moon, pareho tayo . I'm like that too. I don't like it when people can read what I really am feeling.

People see me as this really jolly happy nice person who hyper and crazy. Yes, that is me, but they don't know that i have this sort of alter-ego. I hide from people when i feel really bad. People think i'm Ms. Confident but hell, deep inside i get choked with insecurity sometimes. That's why I love the library and the Church of the Gesu. When i feel like crap (sometimes, i feel that way for no reason), i hide myself from people and write away in this diary that I take along with me everyday.

Although, ironically, even if i don't like it when people read me, i secretly wish someone would actually notice that deep inside I'm not ok...then I'd know that that person is one i can be myself with...without having to feel the need to please him/her.

:confused: It so funny. We people..we have defense mechanisms in order to protect ourselves. We put up fronts and masks in order to sheild prying eyes on our true selves deep inside. The reason why we put up our defenses is to appear invulnerable or strong or inpenetrateable..and so on and so forth.

Yet here we are, annonymously revealing our defense mechanisms to others. So many people respond to such a question that seems mudane yet loaded. Subconsciously, we actually want to reach out and tell people that, "hey, this is me."

It goes to show that we put up out defenses not out of strength but out of fear. We don't really want to put them up but we still do coz we are afraid of what people will think or how people will react. Its the same with the other people you try to protect yourself from. They too have their defense mechanisms against you.

la lang. Just an interesting observation

just to add but a bit off-topic...

we all have our defense mechanisms ok... but the interesting phenomenon is people on the INTERNET tend to be more honest about themselves... they're much more comfortable about letting themselves loose and they're just enjoying who they are even for just a few hours of typing and reading... it's quite beautiful actually... i only wish we could carry it over to the outside world...

i'm speaking for myself and about what i've observed ok... so what do you think about that?

Is it maybe because we have time to think before we post? Unlike on the outside world everything is spontaneuos. You have no time to think before you speak... people's presence can sometimes be intimidating and make you conscious... that's why we have our own self built defense mechanism. As for being here in the net it gives you the oppurtunity to be who you are and more. Here you'll be able to see the epitome of what you can be. That's why I love this forum I am so comfy and at home.

great for you

what you said is so right... i usually think before i say something but when i'm online it takes me a lot longer... i really want to think about what i'm going to say... especially when the subject is a bit touchy...

i spent about 8 minutes typing this post! and it's so short! hehehehe

Its ironic...

Essentially, the people we exchange our thoughts and feelings with are actually the people we see everyday in school..

Yet there we are afraid.

to Ping ,

Interesting phenomena noh? For all i know ikaw young makaktabi ko bukas without even knowing it.

if you meant that literally, i'd say there's little to none chance of that happening... wala nako sa ateneo eh hehe

yung defense mechanism niyo... do you do it unconsciously? as in afterwards mo lang marerealize "ay, ang sungit ko pala kanina" o "snub pala ako kanina"? kasi in my experience, the way i act is greatly influenced by how i feel at that time... if i don't feel very good about myself i don't really talk much but if i'm in a great mood, i chummy even the people i just met.. hehehe it's la lang just want to know if it's the same for you people... or do you go into your defense mode consciously and willingly?

that took me 8 minutes... errrrrrrrr

It works both ways.

Biting sarcasm works for me.

sophist, pareho tayo.