I was proposed to August of this year. A rocky relationship followed after I said yes to my supposed fiancee. We agreed that we would have a civil wedding after he turns 21. I called off the engagement because everything just didn't go how it should be. He was really disappointed with me, especially now that he's 21 already! We're not together anymore, but we still consider each other as friends. We still pretend to be together in front of our friends and family. He told me that things will never be the same anymore, and I was being blamed for everything. He asked me if its possible for a once in a lifetime chance to happen twice. People say it's possible if I make it happen. Please enlighten me... thanks!

but how do you know if this is the once-in-a-lifetime? how does one know?

Are you sure you want to discuss this in this forum? Meaning, you really wanna go all philosophical about it?

let me guess, teddy ang pangalan ng supposed fiancee mo

i'm just curious, why do you still pretend to be together? i think being friends would be enough if you really can't make things work out between the two of you.

What's a "once in a lifetime" opportunity in the first place? It can't be a "once in a lifetime" opportunity if it happens again.

What I mean is that, just because something is considered "once in a lifetime", we don't necessarily HAVE to think of it as "once in a lifetime" ourselves.

The easiest answer to this is that, if you think you belong together for the rest of your lives, then by all means, go ahead and try again.

If you think that you should factor your prior failed engagement into your decision, then do so. Ask yourself if this forebodes how your relationship will be in the future.

yes i think once in a lifetime can happen twice..hell! even nth times...

nasa sa atin lang naman talaga yan eh, in most cases, we have a hard time letting go of people/things because the thought of this person or this thing only happening once in our lives clings in our head..baka ndi na maulit muli.

but truth is, there are always better people and better things to come...we are being taught to let go of things we think is best kse we need to be humble enough to realize that we don't always know what's best...labo ba?

anyway, my point lang naman is that we have to learn to let go of things to make way for better ones...

peace!

it can happen, iha. at first it would seem all "deja vu-like" state at first... it would give you a feeling of odd detachment, but give it a try. trust me. there's no harm in trying.

I've finally got my answer. With how things are gonig between me and my man, I guess a second chance with love will never happen. We're both busy in our respective worlds. He's still in school and I'm working. No matter how hard I try.. or we try... I guess he would still be a kid (he's 3 years my junior). We're friends... still talk on the phone and text each other once in awhile. I'll be a hypocrite if I say that I'm happy. I shouldn't regard it as a waste coz I gave him the right to come in and shake up my life. But then, it left me thinking. What gives us the right to enter someone's life and turn it upside down? I guess love could be the answer to that. When two people mutually love each other that reason alone could be a train ticket to change each other's life and to circle around each other. I always said to him that he made my life complete...and telling him that was surely a mistake. Don't take it against me. Before I entered the relationship, I should have told myself that I was complete already... it made me really dependent on him.

hehehehhehe! you sound a lot like me dati..hmmmm, i relate to that 'what gives them the right to turn our life/world upside down'..pero come to think of it, we gave them the power to do that naman eh, tho we could have been unaware of that pero still..diba?!

wala naman kseng talagang gago kung walang nagpapagago diba..it's not that we're given rights to shake up other people's lives..kse ganun rin naman binibigay natin in return so patas lang!

gago ba ng sagot ko??

first i'll answer your question "can once in a lifetime happen twice?". my answer is never. not in this lifetime at least.

as for your realization that things will never be the same again between you and your bf, i say good on you, because you were able to realize this early in your life. you chose not to let your life pass you by. but don't say that you've made a mistake by telling him that he's made your life complete. i'm sure that at the time you told him that, you felt that it all made sense. you loved him. it all makes sense when we're in love with someone, but as soon as we come close to the end, we find loopholes, we have doubts. there are no mistakes, only lessons to be learned. remember that.

be thankful to God still, because i'm sure He has someone better in store for you. your ex-bf is not really intended for you, that's why you're not together anymore. i personally don't believe that you've already gone full circle, it's too early to tell. but i feel that it will be soon, and it will be with someone. congratulations and God bless!

Hi Im just new here.
I just want to give an advise to you.
Pls dont hope anymore that your relationship
will continue.Your fiance is 21 right he is in the peak of his manlihood w/c means when a person reach his 20's he became more matured in terms of sex with his opposites.
There are times that he looks out for new adventures w/ another girl and forgot what he has promised to a girl w/c he presently have.I'm not saying that this happens to all males for some only.

Let go of your feelings and do your priorities first and a right person will come
to you and make you happy for the rest of your life.

"That's were once in lifetime will happen again"

hMm..
imMa aNalyze that..and iL get baCk tO you..

Once in a lifetime is cliche even for a cliche.

For instance, winning the lottery would classify as a "once in a lifetime" thing for everyone I suppose. So what does that make of people who have won the lottery more than once? Its happened two or three times already in our local Lotto, and I know Ripley's TV featured a couple of Americans who've won their state lotteries twice as well.

Getting married is supposedly a once-in-a-lifetime deal as well, so how come there are people who get married more than once and consider (legitimately so at that) every marriage as a once in a lifetime thing?

So, yes, I believe once in a lifetime can happen more than once.

i've lived and died for the nth time...
a lifetime for me is a timeframe of events in our lives... for example, my 3 year relationship with my exgf...
that was another lifetime...
it's not bound to happen again because we could never bring back time or reseurrect ourselves.
i already died.
now... i'm living another lifetime...
the only thing i could tell you is "that's life."
you love and you get hurt... the thing is, you should never let this problem be your burden for the rest of all eternity...
sometimes it's better to die and restart... so that we'd never have the chance to hurt others because of the scars that remind us of pain and suffering.
my exgf asked me why i destroy everything when i get hurt...
my reason is out of her reasoning...
that's why she left...
because she's so damn focused in keeping every single detail of mistakes and errors in her life.
set yourself free...
there are still people around you.
hmm... i should tell that to myself more often, he he.

Birth and death, the only things that are truly and definitely once-in a-lifetime in this plane of existence.

As for love, well, that my friends is an ever-evolving game, the rules of which change constantly, thus leading to much confusion and not a bit of gritty and grim drama. Nothing in love, to my mind, is ever fully once in a lifetime, otherwise love could never grow. Change is what allows love to grow, and ultimately, change is what ensures that nothing in love is ever fully once in a lifetime.

Pareng Joe:

Ang once-in-a-lifetime ay once lang. If it happens twice, then it is twice-in-a-lifetime. If thrice, then thrice-in-a-lifetime.

Teka, ilan ba ang lifetime mo?

Once in a lifetime can happen only once.

Para ano pa't tinawag itong ONCE in a lifetime kung mauulit din lang naman pala, di ba?

I don't have an idea about this thing. Napaka seryoso nyo nmn peepz!!
singit lang ha baka magalit kau!!...kulang na lang marriage life pag usapan d2 eh....wahehehe!!

la lang...

go on ....

alam mo ang cute ng avatar mo!!! wahehe!!

once in a lefetime...
one in a million....
once in a blue moon...
once again<<<<...it's different...
just once.....
ahhhhhh!!!!!!!
basta mey once...
bwahahaha!!
ang gulo ko noh!!


luv yah all!!!

*HUgz*muah*

No.

i agree in lieu to the above!