siguro nga you're right. well, i haven't experienced a heartbreak pa naman kaya i mustn't really tell. anyway, kase my thinking says that love can really be painful, and yet, we'd rather edure that... teka, what's the quote again... "it is better to have loved and lost, than to have not loved at all".. parang ganon. at least there was the time when you were really happy. tsaka, pain makes the next relationship sweet, kase you've come from pain..at least you came from the sky, and you weren't on the ground all the time.. gets? oh well, i guess it's a case to case basis.. enough of the mush.. yikes.. hehe
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kasi the person has been a part of your routine already... lalo na when you centered your life around this person..mahirap... kanino ka ngayon tatakbo??? to friends..they can only do so much..they cant give the same warmth and attention your special someone once gave you..
i've been through it and i am still "not over" in a sense
i had to leave the country so i guess that took away the possibilities of us running into each other in public places... but its hard...really really hard...

I just wanna share... last month, I broke up with my (ex)boyfriend. Why? Because I want to refocus my life back to God and be of service to Him before anything else. I've been straying away kasi eh, tsaka burden sa akin na i was hiding it from my parents. It wasn't easy, pero thank God, He made me realize na it was the right decision!!!

Heya siKAT… i totally understand your situation. It’s good to know that you’re back on track with God.

Wow, that's a pretty difficult decision to make. WEll, if I was in your shoes, I would've thought it would be a little difficult. I commend you for that! I wish I'll the same strength when the time comes.

I'm just a little curious, why hide it? Bawal ba? Or won't they like the guy? Or you didn't love him enough to show him to your parents (well, some people are like that. Parang ikinakahiya....). You don't have to answer if you don't feel like it.

Thanks chi_doll and red glitterfly!


Step by step ha... hehe..

1. Why hide it? Bawal ba? - Oo bawal eh. My parents wanted me to wait until I graduate. And they didn't like him. They have their reasons... and I totally understood why they came up with those reasons. Yet, eto ako matigas ang ulo... sinunod ko pa rin ang sarili ko. Another thing is, and this is the most important.. I knew God wasn't up for it. It wasn't what He wanted for me. Why did I know? Because all those months, I had lived in conviction. Parang kahit sa tingin ko masaya ako sa relationship, I still had that guilt and heaviness. It never left me until I finally broke it off!

2. Or you didn't love him enough to show him to your parents? - Let's just say that I'm not the type who would fight for a boyfriend just so he would be accepted by my parents. Love ko ang parents ko eh, and I honor their decisions. Alam ko namang tama lahat ng sinasabi nila eh, agree nga ako sa reasons nila. Ewan ko ba, in the end di ko rin sila sinunod! Stubborn lang talaga ako!

I always tell people na, I don't really believe that in a relationship, love conquers all. Because as a Christian, there's always this greater love which will conquer everything, the love I have for the Lord! Ayoko kasing magcompromise eh. Gusto ko all-out!

Yun lang.

[ June 09, 2003: Message edited by: siKAT ]

siKAT, sent you a pm..

chi_doll, sent you a pm too

You know what, I'll keep that in mind...

I'm not religious but my faith still remains..

Either way... I'll keep that in mind.

Kat, pareho tayo, only with a different twist. My bf's okay with my folks. Our parents are friends. Ayaw lang ng parents ko na magka-bf muna ako.

If I lose focus in my studies becasue of this relationship, I'll break up with him. But that wouldn't change the fact that I love him.

Pucha, ang hirap. And I'm scared of breakups. Before, I was afraid to commit. Now, I'm afraid to let go.

[b]SHARE KO LANG...MY LAST RELATIONSHIP ENDED YESTERDAY LANG....ITS A GOOD THING MY (X) BOYFRIEND AND I BARELY MADE IT TO 1 MONTH...WE REALLY DONT KNOW EACH OTHER WELL THAT MUCH...KC TO BE HONEST..PANGET MAN AMININ (PRO E2 ANG 220),HINDI PA NYA KO NILILIGAWAN CNAGOT KO NA SYA (MY STORY PA BEHIND THAT..SO PUH-LIZZ..WG MUNA KYO MGISIP NG NEGATVE)...SO AYON..HOW DID THE RELATIONSHIP ENDED YOU MAY ASK....I CELEBRATED MY BDAY NUNG JUN.7 W/ MY FRIENDS & MY BF..WE SORT OF LIKE GOT INTO AN ARGUMENT...MISUNDERSTANDING TO BE SIMPLE...WE HAVEN'T TALKED FOR LIKE 3 DAYS..THEN I ASKED NA MY BSTFRND YESTERDAY AFTERNOON IF ITL B MCH BETTR 2 COOL 8 OFF BTWEEN ME & MY BF..COZ WE REALLY ARE NOT THAT COMPATIBLE...WE SO MUCH CANT UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER..THEN WHEN I OPENED MY EMAIL NUNG GABI,HE SENT ME THIS EMAIL NA GANON NA NGA...HE WANTS TO COOL IT OFF..SAYING NA MAYBE ITS BETTER IF WE'LL START ALL OVER AGAIN..SINCE WE NEVER GOT THE CHANCE TO BE FRIENDS TLGA...IF U KNOW WUT I MEAN..SO I AGREED..(FOR THE FIRST TIME) I UNDERSTOOD HIM...PAREHO KME NG INISIP AT PAREHO KAMI NG MGA REASONS....AND WE'RE IN GOOD TERMS NMN...HE PROMISED ME HE'LL ACCOMPANY ME ON MY FIRST DAY SA NEW SKUL KO SINCE WE STUDY AT THE SAME SKUL...

Red Glitterfly, I don't consider myself as religious either. But I know I'm faithful though. Keep it up!

Pineforest Crunch aka Monix, oo mahirap nga yun pag ayaw talaga ng parents mo.. no matter how seemingly perfect the guy is, hindi pa rin.. kasi hindi pwede sa kanila.

Nagka-boyfriend na ako at lahat-lahat.. up to now, I still don't know how to commit. Hindi ko pa talaga kaya yung I-WILL-DO-EVERYTHING-FOR-YOU type of commitment. Hindi kasi ako ganon eh. Oh well. Pero loyal ako ha! Yun nga lang, sa commitment hindi pa masyado.

Kwento ko lang, i have this super ultimate crush na crush ko na eversince. Nakilala sya ng mom ko and my parents think he's great. Hindi naman sa nanliligaw sya or anything (hindi nga nya ako gusto eh), but my mom said, if there's something going on, sabi nya pag-graduate na lang. And never neglect to pray for him.. if he is really the one God wants. If he is, then he will be there for you and only for you, kahit ano pang mangyari.

Haay grabe. Ang thinking ko parang si Charlotte from Sex And the City. hehe.

i havent exactly had a "formal" romantic relationship... share ko lang, i was very brutal when i was in hs... i had this sort of relationship with a guy and since i really didnt like him {medyo napilitan lang ako kasi mabait naman siya and all my friends and even those who weren't really my friends liked him for me}, i just told him i liked another guy more and that was that... a few weeks after, we graduated, so that was the end of it.... hehe...

Kat, I ended our relationship. Hindi niya na kaya yung nagtatago kami. Ngayon I fully understand why you felt relieved.

Monix, I don't know how should I feel for you. Am I supposed to be happy or sad?

Maybe I should be relieved coz by the way you talked, it seems like you are.

Am doing fine now dear. May ka-olatan siyang ginawa yesterday. He was screaming sa harap ng house namin.

nanlalambot na ko after reading all the posts... nakakadepress...
well, in my case kasi, naging mahirap makipagbreak kasi ang ganda nung relationship namin. we understood each other perfectly. parang sobrang friends na namin na nababasa na namin yung iniisip ng bawat isa. it was more than just a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. it was a lot more than that. tapos yun, nagcollege... ang layo namin.. parang biglang nagiba yung mundo namin. basta yun. parang hindi ko nga maxplain ng maayos eh. siguro masyado pa rin akong emotional. 1 month pa lang kasi since nagbreak kami. the worst thing is, friends pa rin kami. i cant stand being so close to him. para kasing ang lapit-lapit lang namin sa isat-isa tapos hindi pa rin pwede lumapit talaga.
mahirap magend ng relationship because of all the good things that happened before. i wanted to stay because i thought that maybe our relationship can be the way it was...
pero hindi talaga eh. so yun.
feeling ko ang labo ko na...

wow, para na tong dear kuya eddie ah... hehehe...

in my case, ako ung nakipag-break... kase, ako na lang ang nagdadala ng relationship nmin... parang walang kwenta sa kanya... ung masakit pa is nung sinabi ko sa kanya na break na kami not bcoz di ko sya mminahal but bcos di ko na kaya.. alam nyo ba kung ano ang sabi?? " OK... un lang nman ang hinihintay ko e..."

grrrr... gusto ko syang sakalin at sabihin sa kanya na wala syang kwenta!!! still.. di ko na lang itinuloy.. mahal ko e...!!!! nweway kung mabasa mo to.. ito lang ang sasabihin ko sa kanya: F*** ka!!!!!

there.. di ko na sya love eh....

ending a relationship to begin with was never easy...
always was...always is...always will
doesnt matter if you'll be the one ending the relationship or vice-versa. Palagi sa huli masasaktan ka or may masasaktan ka. It sucks but that's how life works. Its how the human relationship works.

I had one relationship that lasted for almost 3 years (actually 4 months na lang before 4th anniv namin)I met him when i was in hs, he was in college back then. He was a friend before so in the first phase ng relationship namin, i was very much comfortable with it. Every month we celebrate our "day", he always surprise me with letters,flowers and whatnot (which in the first place the thing that makes me fall for him)..basta he was always that sweet, loving guy. And i was thankful for that. But the problem before was ayaw ng parents ko sa kanya. especially with my mom (huh, whats with the mom thing huh?). It was only after i graduated hs that he was allowed and WELCOMED in the house. my mom wont even allow him to kiss her hands. And even if he was okie na to visit me sa house, parang nandun na yung "fear" na baka magalit ang family ko. Ako naman, i did everything to make him feel at ease... but one day, i found out that he cheated on me. I feel so lout because ginawa nila (with his friend) akong tanga. They made me believe that it was his friend who wanted to court this girl, eh thnking na "friend" ko rin sya..i help them out, they have this stolen pic from the girl, ako pa nagscan, print ko pa sa pc ko..with my own kodak paper and ink (hehehe:P) then after nun, i even paint the girl's face...bili pa kami ng card...oh well..what sucks is that ang bf ko pala ang may gusto sa girl. no wonder he always talk about this girl pagkausap nya ako sa phone. no wonder he always went to this place para makati nya yung girl.
It hurts so bad..BIG TIME! nanliit ako sobra. one night, i cried big time. iyak ako ng iyak...then i talked to him, he denied everyting (the guts!) but it was too late for him... but still i dont know, di ko alam if tanga ako, if i loved him that much that i accepted his apology and funny...our relationship went on for 2 years pa. but ang hirap...ang hirap hirap pagnawala na yung trust mo sa bf mo. ang sakit sa dibdib, ang sakit magkimkim ng galit.
Nobody is perfect ika nga diba, but about my bf before, it was too much for me to carry. it was too much for me to understand all his burdens in life...all his pains na palagi na lang ako dpat ang magintindi...that ako ang magparaya..ako ang magbigay. that relationship was an eye opening for me. Hindi mo kailangang i-sacrifice lahat para sa mahal mo. Kailangan mo ring magtira para sa sarili mo. or better yet, you have to love yourself first...bago ka magmahal ng iba.
So it was december 2000, when i told him enough. Parang nabunutan ako ng tinik. i feel so sad but i was able to smile...sa kanya naging mahirap because ng nawala ako, thats the only time HE REALIZE HOW IMPORTANT I AM TO HIM..(opps..remmber the thread ni sophist )

Buttom line is, if your relationship becme burdensome, painful and selfish...its not love anymore...the more that you will hurt your self, your partner and your relationship. Yo have to learn to let go. Because loving someone doesnt mean that you have to be together. Sometimes loving means you have to set him/her free.

but now it got me to thinking, my bestfriend told me that having been dump is the best thing she experienced, because she was able to feel the pain, how it feels to be hurt, to be left alone...after all those pain, she learn how to value the person she is with right now. is it true that being dumped will help you to be stronger?

oh well..still breakup hurts!

I've never had a GF before, but I know a few things about breakups.

It's a painful experience for both parties. After all, they're both gonna lose someone they love, or loved.

Once a breakup is about to happen, the one who wants to break up bears the burden of guilt. He/she doesn't know what the other would feel, if it would hurt a lot, etc. Furthermore, it's a risk. What if you're breaking up for the wrong reasons? If you did, you would end up the loser in the end.

And for the person whom he/she broke up with, he/she can either save the relationship, or let it go. Either way, he/she will have a hard time because it would lead to doubts within him/herself and towards the partner who wants to break up. There can either be suspicion or bitterness.

If something is holding you back from breaking up, then it means you have to talk to your partner about the relationship. Try to find out where this is going and be clear with your goals. If you guys have different goals, it makes it easier to break up. If you have the same goals, then it means you guys have to talk some more. Be completely open when doing so so that you can pinpoint the problem in your relationship and figure out if it is worth continuing.

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easiest to do but hardest to accept? matagal mag sink in.

awww.. sabi nila, hindi na masakit pag 'mature' na ang outlook and attitude about relationships (or love).. tama ba?

not necessary (hindi na masakit) it's just that.. sometimes nauuna tayong mag isip kung iiyak ba tayo or lalo lang magiging down .. isnt it my mangyayari ba? babalik ba xa? diba wla?

tulad ko. i used to hide my feelings simula ng saktan ako ng minahal ko (and apparently minahal din ako kaso niloko din naman)..

sabi nga

LEARN from your EXPERIENCE..

kaso..


WLA PA DIN AKONG KADALA DALA..

hmmmmmmmmnnnnnnnnn

only HUMAN

nabitin naman ako sa not necessary mo.

read between the lines (or words) po.

learn from your experiences and LIVE OUT your lessons.

experts.. dr love! haha! sana pinanood niyo ang yspeak last sunday. maraming natalakay tungkol sa mga relationships. mula sa pananaw ng kabataan. marahil nagkaroon kayo ng idea. nakarelate na rin.

ok ok po. KUYA BRYANNE.. na gets ko ang ibig mong sabihin..

DONT WORRY KUKUWENTO KO ANG FULL DETAILS BUKAS..

pauwi na kasi ako eh..

wait ngayon na lang. para makapag ponder at mapag-isipan namin yung love story mo..
go.. huwag ka na muna lumisan. overtime din yan!