hi..

pareho tayo halos ng nic! haha

seems like i almost bumped into either of you in the library. the pc that i was using had u nick chine_eyes/china eyes on it. hmm... too close...

bake siya yun. i don't kasi use the lib eh. i'm very uncomfortable typing or surfing when someone is beside me...

hi, chinaeyes! are you chinese? cos i am! hehehe and by the way, i don't remember surfing in the library too.

hi china_eyes! no im not chinese. part-chinese cuz my grandpa is chinese but we don't count that anymore. i did the whole fil-chi relationship thing so for a while i seriously prayed that i could at least look chinese. i do naman eh pero mas mukha pa rin akong pinay... oh well... ayoko na sa chinese. that relationship really shattered my ego and i suddenly became insecure. pero at the same time i became a better person because i tried so hard to be a great girlfriend. i got good grades, behaved really well. but as linkin park sings it (yuck jologs ba?! ) "in the end it soesn't really matter..." hehe.

that's the story of my life. what about you?

well, i'm a chinese-filipina. but i don't really belong in a traditional chinese family since my dad was disowned by my grandparents when he married my mom, so most of our ways are actually filipino. although my dad doesn't necessarily want a chinese male for me, chinese guys just happen to be my type. but that doesn't mean i don't date guys if they're not chinese! although sometimes, i wish my family will go by the tradition 'cos i really like this chinese guy.. i just wish we'll get betrothed!

hi! i just noticed, it seems kayong dalawa lang ang naguusap usap. Pwede bang maki-extra?

sure! hi, jo!

online ka pala!?
ano ba ang chinito? explain chinito?
wala lang, kasi im pure chinese, chinito na ba tawag doon?

[ July 16, 2002: Message edited by: jo ]

chinito is a term for males (chinita, for females) with chinky eyes, so most probably, chinese sila or at least small percent chinese, kase only the chinese have chinky eyes naman eh! you're chinese, you're a chinito, so, WELCOME!

[ July 16, 2002: Message edited by: china_eyes ]

im chinese, lucky for both of u, i did the whole fil-chi relationshp, and it didnt work for me, family was too traditional...

o well...
*sigh*

hi china_eyes! aliw talaga ako sa nic natin!

hehe. you know i have a friend na pareho ng story mo. her dad was also disowned when he married her mom. kaya nga medyo matanda na siya nung nag-start siya makipag-usap sa mga relatives niya. pero ang alam ko di talaga siya close sa mga cousins and uncles niya. mahirap talaga tanggapin na magagawa ng family yun sa isang tao.

ako i'm still wondering if it's ever gonna be possible for relationships like this can work out. i tend to like mga guys na medyo chinese but after what happened to me... trauma talaga... ewan lang ha... after that relationship, within a couple of weeks i was seeing someone na uli. he's totally filipino pero he ended up being a jerk so... it's not a race thing pero parang baka mag-date na lang ako ng girls... hehe. joke lang!

nice to meet you. post ka pa. usap tayo!

hey, chinaeyes! funny but, late ko na ren na-meet yung relatives ko from the fatherside. i think i was in third year high school when i had my first trip to homeland china. imagine, it took my grandparents 15 years to accept us! they turned out to be, well, good though. except that, they wanted me and my little brother to learn chinese. are they nuts?! ang hirap kaya nun!

hi, jo!

hi, kaebee!

tell us your story!

wats the story to tell? fell in love in with a pinay, even if i knew my parents would never agree. she knows of my situation, but still agrees to go on with the relationship.
mahirap lang, palagi tago, patakas, cant go out just like that, i know she is hurting, i know she deserves more.
so in the end, i was the one that broke up with her, kuz i know i cant give her the things that I WANT TO....
she deserves somebody better...
=(

*sigh*

that's so sad, kaebee.. at least, you can always say that you had her once. remember a.i.? "perhaps that one moment could last forever."

chinaeyes!!! so sad, hindi pala kita puwede i-pm?! anyway, wala lang, i just think i'm beginning to fall in-love again.. kaya lang, what's stopping me is the fear of getting hurt.. again!

oo nga eh.. when i signed up kasi here i didn't want anyone to pm me. baka kasi malaman kung sino ako. i'm very open pa naman with my stuff. anyway, baka palitan ko na next time yun.

so who are you falling in love with? kwento ka naman. ako din kasi i think i am this close to falling na talaga for someone. pero kahit pinoy siya, he's such a jerk naman. he sweet talked me and all... tapos he told me that we should just be friends na lang. without any explanation he just walked away... bad trip. pero diba the heart wants what it wants? well, i want him. i'm really stupid... hehe.

kwento ka! um, are you a senior? kasi i'm a senior eh.

parang private message/forum narin ito sa inyong 2 ah...

sali ka na rin!

helo china_eyes!

bakit ganyan yung mga family ng iba? my family don't mind if i get a filipino girl or a chinese girl.
i pity on the parents ng mga family na yan, ang tanda na nila and still they don't understand. buti pa tayo, we understand and accept people as they are.

wala lang, just a thought.

JO: bad trip nga eh. ako i really thought that my ex and i would work out eventually. but no matter how hard i tried to be excellent, wala pa rin. i will never be good enough because i'm not chinese. oh well... ganyan talaga...

i hope after that experience, you won't look down on chinese families. i mean, there are a lot of other chinese families that don't mind whether you're chinese or not. i just hope you'll find THAT family.
gusto mo hanapan pa kita, hehe jk lng!
seriously, just be patient and lakasan mo nalang ang RADAR mo. hehe!

hey mga china eyes looks like this is your forum only..sali naman ako!!! well im half chinese..my dad doesn't mind me dating filipino guys 'coz i have filipino blood kaso puwede akong magkabf after college so lahat ng relationships ko tago. my dad is sooo strict talaga..parang ang gusto niyang mangyari ay books before boys, hello im in college na!! pero buti na lang nakakatakas ako.

hey mga china eyes looks like this is your forum only..sali naman ako!!! well im half chinese..my dad doesn't mind me dating filipino guys 'coz i have filipino blood kaso puwede akong magkabf after college so lahat ng relationships ko tago. my dad is sooo strict talaga..parang ang gusto niyang mangyari ay books before boys, hello im in college na!! pero buti na lang nakakatakas ako.

hey mga china eyes looks like this is your forum only..sali naman ako!!! well im half chinese..my dad doesn't mind me dating filipino guys 'coz i have filipino blood kaso puwede akong magkabf after college so lahat ng relationships ko tago. my dad is sooo strict talaga..parang ang gusto niyang mangyari ay books before boys, hello im in college na!! pero buti na lang nakakatakas ako.

hi, chinaeyes! no, i'm only a junior. i'm falling inlove with, well, my dad. no, not my biological father, if that's what you're thinking. i call him my dad kase. wala lang, just an indication of our fondness siguro. ah, i remember! i asked him once kase if i was getting any fat and then he started calling me his chubbylita and then everything was history. i was already attracted to him the first time we met. he was really my type kase, but when i learned that one of my friends like him, i shrugged off the idea. saka, i had someone then. a pure filipino guy. not really my type, but he hit me right there kase. sobrang bait. but then i realized that a girl has to love that someone with her heart and mind. in my mind, he's definitely not the one. not the type you'll bring home to mom. ang sama no! pero ganon talaga. i convinced myself nga na he'd do, pero siya mismo, ayaw humarap sa parents ko. baket, ano bang kinahihiya niya? i hated that about him, he's such a coward! i thought i could escape my attraction to my "dad," but i was wrong. by the way, he's 25% chinese. he's such a sweet person kase! i particularly got in trouble with my feelings for him when he held my hand once when we were crossing the street. my previous guy kase never did that. he would wrap his arms around me but, never the hand. for me kase, it's different with the hand. parang kase it represents your whole. i can't remember how we've grown so close but we just did. siguro dahil dun sa name-calling namen. para talaga kameng mag-ama. we take care of each other. in fact, last summer, we ran away in one of the southern beaches kase i had this major conflict with a friend. hindi yung isa pang may gusto sa kanya, ha? iba. as for that friend of mine, she moved on.. to the next! anyway, there were two beds in our room pero we just stayed in one. we shared the same bed, blanket and pillow.. ang sweet noh! we would talk endlessly in the darkness (yeah, all the lights in our room were off and we never went out) and then at times when i cry, he would comfort me and sing "i will be here." we were supposed to stay there for a week but we got back to the city after two days cos i felt that i already have to act on my problem. we didn't see each other for a week, but my friends have been telling me that he's been asking about me. tells them that he misses me. he's been calling me at home, but i was too busy sorting things out with my friend. alam mo ba, napaka-laking gulo nung problemang yun, i was already scheduled to leave the country, kase hindi ko na talaga kaya. but i stayed and endured everything. and until now, i can't believe how extraordinary my healing power is. anyway, my dad and i still spend time together, but i stopped calling him so. sabe niya, baket daw, kase ba raw independent na ko? well, i remember telling him that but, obviously, i stopped calling him so, cos i don't want him to be my dad! but the father ng mga magiging anak ko! ngak! corny! ewan ko kung napaparanoid lang ako, pero kase parang hindi na kami tulad ng dati. baket, siguro dahil we no longer have that excuse na mag-ama kame? kung ganon e, dun lang pala based ang relationship namen?! i don't even remember if he's still wearing the bracelet i gave him! or, dahil nagiging sensitive lang ako dahil i'm beginning to see him in another light? chinaeyes, HELP! enlighten me..

pasensya na, kaebee!

hi, jo!

welcome, ice_princess!

gawd... how sweet naman that story about the "great escape"... far from the maddening city, one bed, lights out, just talking (and an occasional song amidst the tears... sayang if you don't pursue this. i had a guy before who, well..., even if we were never as close as the two of you seem to be, we certainly shared many moments like that. once nga we were at the beach din, we talked lang all night,as in i felt so comfortable and so happy with him. pero he's younger than me by... never mind... basta younger. i had a lot of issues then with the thought na college na ko, high school pa lang siya. kahit na he looked older and acted older than his years. he tried to pursue it pero i was too stupid to ignore him na lang. ngayon wala na siya cause he lives halfway around the world na. sayang talaga. too late. kaya kung ako sa yo, minsan lang yan. yung "i'm so happy you're here with me cause i feel so safe and beautiful" feeling na yan. wag mo palampasin.

sabi sa my bestfriends wedding, "when you love someone, say it or the moment just passes you by."

sabi sa with honors:
(guy kisses girl)
girl: what are you doing?
guy: i'm ending our friendship...

o diba!

sana magkakilala talaga tayo para makwento mo pa sakin in full detail (sobra talaga ako interesado) kinikilig ako for you (ano ba yan??????! ang tanda ko na para kiligin!) hehe

pwede ba mag-join dito? im part chinese but i look like a pure filipino! hehe chinito pa ba ako?

oo naman! join ka!

chinaeyes!!! what another coincidence! the guy i've been talking about is also younger than me, a year younger that is, but also looks older than i do. he's a big guy kase. anyway, alam mo ba, whenever i lay on bed every night, i always remember how physically close we were when we were lying on that bed. totoo pala yung parang nama-magnetize ka, that it makes you just want to kiss him. "i wanted to hold you, i wanted to make it go away.." ika nga ni mandy moore. akala ko sa movies lang yung ganon.. hindi pala. so, ano? i'll be the one to ask him? i've never tried it before kaya baka it wouldn't work for me. saka i've always been afraid to ask, i'm afraid to be turned down kase. palalampasin ko nalang siguro 'to, just like the others.. of course, it'll hurt, but i've felt like this na naman before, so no doubt, i'll get pass this again. the only reason why i'll be hurting is cos i'm going to go through it. saka, baket ako? is he also a coward to admit, if ever, what he feels for me? i hate cowards! nyaygs! ako mismo duwag e.. *sigh*
thanks ha?!

hi, hazelnut!

i came from a chinese school... and surprisingly, in my 13 years there, i've only encountered fil-chi relationship problems once. kaya it's really surprising that a lot of the people here have encountered it. i guess it's just bad luck.. hehe joke! anyway, sobrang konti nalang naman yung ganun na very traditional chinese families eh. and in time (i hope), mawawala na talaga yun. im sure there's something bound to happen that will stop this nonsense. :cool:
la lang.. just wanted to share. hehe

WAG MO PALAMPASIN!!!! SAYANG!!!!

passionate ba masyado?? alam mo kasi ako... wala akong prospect ngayon kaya ang kaligayahan ko ay ang makita ang kapwa ko na maging masaya. if you let this thing go, sayang. eh ano kung younger siya? kaya mo yan! besides, i'm sure pwede mo naman i-bring up yung topic (stuff between you 2) without sounding overly aggressive (parang redundant..). basta make it seem like he brought it up. madali lang yun. guys are very easy to talk to once you figure out little facts about them. i'm sure you'll have an easier time talking to this guy din because you have a history already. you've shared real intimacy in that bed and you said it yourself that you felt good with him. that's your gut telling you to trust your instincts and go for it. kung ayaw niya, eh di wala na tayo magagawa pero at least you tried. that's what's important. you may not see it now but what if a few years down the road, you meet someone who loves you and makes you happy... just not deliriously happy like this, how you felt that moment when you were with this guy. pano na? will you settle? i think there's a thread somewhere here in atenista.net that says it best....

"there are too many things in this world that are mediocre. love should not be one of them."

i'm a firm believer of this kaya nga inspite of myself and inspite of all the hassles i still went ahead with the filipino-chinese relationship. i wanted to see bliss and for a while i did. yun nga lang, it didn't last so now i'm back to zero. pero ito na yung natutunan ko... if there is that person out there who can make me so happy and so full fo love i could burst and die happy, i will definitely go for it. i don't want to wake up years later with someone else, wondering where that one person who got away is doing and where he is at that moment. mahirap may ifs so go for it. we're young once... go! go! go!

wink.

sana nga... sana nga...

here is an essay that i found...

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Here are a series of questions that might help you understand why so many families of Chinese descent still prohibit relationships with Filipinos, even if "we live in the Philippines:"
1. Have Filipinos always treated the Chinese in the Philippines with respect and tolerance?

2. Have Filipinos NEVER used their "native right to the Philippines" to pass laws and regulations that discriminated against the Chinese? (Hint: There's this thing called the 'Retail Trade Liberalization Act' -- when was it passed and why does the retail sector need to be "liberalized" in the first place?)

3. How many Chinese were massacred by Filipinos in the years 1603, 1639, 1662, 1762 and 1820?

"Oh, but that's in the past! We don't discriminate against the Chinese now..."

-- Really? Funny how there's a sudden rise in kidnapping rates of Chinese-Filipino businesspeople before elections. Funny how so few Filipinos know that "Intsik" is a derogatory term -- and how so many Filipinos bandy it around mindlessly.

"Hey, these past and present faults against the Chinese aren't my doing! Why should I suffer for it?"

-- I'm sure there were many folks who just wanted to work hard and live a good life and were persecuted just because they were Chinese. Why should the world NOT lump you alongside how the rest of your race has been behaving?

Tell me how much we have done to make the Chinese feel welcome in the Philippines. In the past twenty years they have finally attained some measure of respect because they have accumulated some wealth over the years (certainly not as much wealth as some of you might think -- not even comparable to the landed families of Spanish descent!). And what do we do now that many Chinese have attained some level of financial security? We resent them for it. We kidnap them. We marginalize them even more.

Tell me why the Chinese should trust YOU. What have you done for them lately? What has your race done for them lately? They're just like everyone else, looking for some semblance of security and hoping that their kids will marry into a family that will treat them with respect and love.

Tell me why they should think that Filipino families will treat their children with respect and love. Tell me why they should not feel inclined to urge their kids to look for someone with the same background, someone who understands their language, someone who understands their plight, someone who can empathize with their fears, concerns and hopes.

If your loved one's family is Chinese, prove to them that you are worthy of this kind of trust. Are you really up to the challenge, given this burden of history? Or are you going to wail and moan and say "it's so unfair! They should treat me right because I'm Filipino and this is the Philippines!"

Choose the latter route and prepare for lots of heartbreak and frustration.

thank you sooo much for your well wishes for me, chinaeyes! i hope i'll be able to do something soon.. cos this just kills me! i just hope i get the right timing.. pero alam mo, even if things don't turn out the way i wanted them to cos i didn't get to do anything about it or even if i did tapos wala pa ren, of course it'll hurt but okay lang siguro, cos at least i could say that i had him once.. to quote haley joel osment in a.i., "perhaps that one moment could last forever." huhuhu

we're all just victims, kaebee..

hi china_eyes!
hello chinaeyes!

may question lang ako. how do you approach someone na it won't mean something else? u just want to get to know that person.

galing mo kaebee!

tumpak na tumpak!

then again, we chinese should not stoop down to their level diba. we should not take revenge or something.

p.s. im not saying mababa ang tingin ko sa mga pinoy, what im saying is mababa ang tingin ko sa mga nagawa nila, like yung mga sinabi ni kaebee.

whoa... daming chinese dito ah... Ako half chinese, half fil. pag puyat dahil kay Calasanz sa Philo chinito , otherwise medyo lang.

hey... ako mas nagiging chinita pag theology class. ewan ko lang kung bakit kapag theo kahit buo ang tulog ko the night before antok na antok ako....

lammo when i was still with my ex (who happened to be chinese) pinag-usapan namin ng class ko sa filipino nq dati noog panahon ng mga espanyol, mababang mababa ang pagtingin sa mga chino. parang sumama nga ang loob ko kasi siyempre nahihiya akong filipina ako at ang mga ninuno ko ay naging ganun ang pakikitungo sa nga chino noong panahon na iyon. pero ano ang magagawa ko? tapos na iyon. ngayon mataas na ang mga chino. sila ang mayaman, matalino at magaganda sa ating paningin. masakit man, tayong mga pinoy na umiibig sa kanila ang nagbabayad sa maraming taong kasalanan sa kanila ng ating lahi. we have come full circle and we now have to pay for the sins of our ancestors. it feels like that sometimes but then, it's really case to case.
when i hear people saying bad things about chinese people, i feel bad not only because i'm part chinese, or because i have a lot of friends who are chinese but because i'm human and any form of discrimination hurts.
i do know that many chinese families are open to fil-chi relationships but those who are not... sigh.... what can i do? medyo malungkot na hindi naging matagumpay ang aking pakikitungo sa kanila pero... cest la vie. there's life after a breakup, ika nga.

hi, chinaeyes! you know, as if god saved me from making the first move. he asked me out last saturday evening and we had dinner. i can't remember the rest that had happened but that he held my hand for the longest time i can remember.. shit! what's that supposed to mean?! baka naman nakikita ko lang ang mga gusto kong makita? naririnig ang mga gusto kong marinig? tell me, am i just reading too much? :confused:

hi, jo! i don't know how you would make it appear na 'wala lang' if you're going to introduce yourself to somebody. more often than not, it would cross the girl's mind na you like her. but then again, she would shrug off the idea until she proves her speculation true with your succeeding moves. so, just DOH it!

hi, lance!

teka teka... kinikilig na naman ako sa yo... i'm so happy for you!!! shucks... hehe...
the guy isn't gonna hold your hand unless he likes you likes you or he's a very very very good friend. from my experience (very little experience but experience nonetheless) the only guys who hold my hand are the ones who are my boyfriend, trying to become my boyfriend, or super duper ka-close ko enough to be close like that. pero even with my guy friends ilan lang yun and usually pag may problema ang isa kaya ganun. parang assurance lang na "hey-im-your-friend" ba... anyway, just enjoy the moment... mamaya magsasabi na rin iyan ng feelings niya. he can only hold it in for so long and eventually one of you is going to move from being in limbo to something else. o diba ang saya? i'm so glad for you

are you going to the singles eb? kahit na alam ko malapit ka na di maging single (hehe). wala lang. hindi ako pupunta pero gusto ko sana ikaw makita or ma-meet. parang ang saya saya mo. maybe your happiness can rub off on me. hehe. joke!

have fun girl! and always update me!

haaay, chinaeyes! you don't know how much your words soothe me. wag kang mag-alala, you'll be one of the first ones to know. well, including the rest who visits this thread maybe. wag kang mag-alala, you'll get your chance of happiness soon. i'll be praying for both of us.

haha. i kinda met someone. pero wala lang. i don't naman need anyone eh. i'm happy right now. you seem happy. isn't this a great time to be alive? hehe

To all Filipino-Chinese (in this forum:Chinitos Welcome!):

Hi guys!!! Some of my friends say that I look a little "Chinito".But, I have no Chinese blood (I think... ). So, can I join the post? :cool:

sus! oo naman ace! join ka... kwento ka para we can all get to know each other

[QUOTE]Originally posted by chinaeyes:
Thanks! But, I have posted (quite a lot) in various forums. I guess some knows my personality already .Don't you think it's better if you change the subject where others can comfortably post their views? I mean, my initial reaction about the subject:"Chinitos Welcome!" is that it's exclusively for Fil-Chi . Just a thought Anyway, I have read the posts in this thread. Sana naman mawala na ang "racial discrimination" dito at sa ibang bansa!. This has been a long time issue! It just so happens that majority of a race has this trait (negative);people generalize immediately :mad: . Unfair!! Prejudgements persists!!! Enough!?! :cool: