a friend of mine was dumped recently by his fiancee because apparently, he got a woman pregnant by accident. the woman was actually a dancer in my friend's stag party. he says he was too drunk to recall what actually happened. but the woman claims it's his.

his fiancee actually found out about this when she overheard my friend talking on the phone, discussing it with his elder brother. my friend could no longer deny the accident that had happened to her. his fiancee broke it all off, weeks before the big day.

his ex-fiancee doesn't want to see or hear anything from him. her parents and his parents are in dismay. my friend is so torn, so confused. he actually doesn't think straight these days. i can't even talk to him seriously. even when i crack a joke, i don't get a single reaction from him. he really is lost.

just this weekend, he actually found out from a friend that his ex-fiancee was 5 weeks pregnant with his child. my friend called his ex-fiancee but still refuses to talk to him.

he would really like to get back to her for the child's sake.

even i am bothered. i pity my friend.

oh..am so sorry to hear that. so sad actually. How one stupid mistake can ruin everything. not to mention hurt the one that you love most.

well i guess we cant blame your friend's fiancee. it will take a lot of time not only to forgive your friend but of course it will take a lot of time to forget about what had happened. TRUST is a very important foundation in a relationship. Though you guys wish that everything will be okie for the both of them, i think it was right that your friend's fiancee brke off the wedding. To gve them both time to think about and reflect about what had happened to their relationship.

Sad because his fiancee is having his baby.. kakalungkot noh? well, prayers and wish them well.

But who knows diba? baka through this baby, his fiancee might find a way to forgive your friend. IF their love is that great..i think nothing is impossible naman...

Tama lang yung bigyan nyo ng time yung girl. She at least deserves that...

So ano pala plano ng friend mo dun sa stripper? sa kanya ba yun? hello..diba meron ng DNA testing? baket di nya patest yung bata

sad nga ito. well, i agree that the girl is not to blame. a mistake is a mistake. but then, there's always room for forgiveness and second chances but then i understand this won't be easy for the girl. i know she got really hurt. but the best thing to do right now is to little by little, brings things back to where they were before this happened for their sake and most especially for the baby's sake. kawawa naman yung baby nila. hindi naman kailangan na agad agad magkabati. i understand it takes time for wounds to heal, ganun din sa heartaches. sana maayos na ito. oo nga, as for the dancer, kumusta na nga ba siya? we dont know if she's telling the truth. pwede nga magpaDNA test. kasi if the dancer's lying, kawawa naman yung couple and if she's telling the truth, kawawa din yung baby nung dancer. haaaaay. sana talaga masolve na ito...

my friend actually thought of that. Dina (the stripper) really refuses to undergo the DNA test.

i think they have scheduled it today - 2pm, i think. i really hope that it isn't his. it could be anybody's kid.

tell you what, there's only so much you can do to help him out in his predicament. it's him who's wallowing in self-pity, and it's his choice whether to remain in limbo or do something decisive to rectify the mess he's in. magpakalalaki siya, get the ***** to submit to a DNA test to once and for all determine the paternity of the child she's carrying (if she's actually pregnant at all). if the aggrieved girl still won't budge, then siya na ang may problema, di yung friend mo.

I'm sorry to hear this too... I agree with the people above. Dapat ngang magpa-DNA test. There's a big possibility that the child isn't his. Try to count months though... What can i say. Sayang yung relationship. As you pointed out, there is the ultimate word. Fiancee. It means the relationship is too deep already. Sayang naman. Pero if the girl(is it the one you call dina?) is really pregnant with his child, Dapat nga nyang panagutan yon.

Dapat talaga mag pa DNA test yung friend mo. Imagine, one "good" night ganun na nangyari.. Paano nga kung di kanya yon. Stripper pa yung nagsabi sa kanya yun tapos ayaw niya magpa DNA? I'm sure as hell the kid isn't your friend's.

Even if the DNA/Blood test turns out to be positive, the results are only conclusive as to non-paternity. I highly doubt that the stripper has the means to compel the guy to acknowledge, judicially or otherwise, the filiation if he does not want to do so.

Sana maayos niya yung problema sa fiancee niya. Hindi naman tayo bias against dun sa stripper pero .....

Sad talaga ang ganitong events. Sana magka-ayusan sila. Sana the fiancee can forgive the guy. Pero if she chooses to live her life without him, it's also her right. Mahirap talaga pag sa simula pa lang may infidelity na even if hindi sinasadya.

Good luck to your friend! I hope the kid ain't his.

I agree! and kung kanino man yung kid na yun.. i hope the real father would show up

well, our answers were heard. IT AIN'T HIS!!! what a relief!

my friend almost punched Dina out in the parking lot beside MMC. he was so furious. and i've never seen my friend behave like that before. but can i blame him?

we asked Dina how she could do such thing? she really thought it was my friend's. she was that confident that's why she doesn't want to undergo the DNA test. she can remember very well that they didn't use any protection that morning.

having a baby wasn't her plans as of yet, especially now that she's supporting an eleven year-old brother and a four year-old sister. her mom left them after giving birth to her sister while her dad is in prison.

she says, she's not the enemy. then who is?

the anger i had for Dina turned to pity that day. as for my friend, he's not upset anymore like he was at first. he felt sorry for Dina, in fact.

one thing came to my mind that day, life can be cruel sometimes. i'm glad that it didn't happen to me.

Amen. Just BELIEVE. :cool:

im glad to hear that. im happy for the couple. however, i must admit i feel some pity for Dina. i dunno... :confused: pero syempre mabuti na lang it isnt your friend's baby. now the thing is, who's baby is it? pano yun, wil the poor child grow up without a father? tssk tssk. life is indeed unfair.

my friend's parents heard the good news that night from the hospital. my friend's mom really doubted Dina's claims that it was my friend's.

just two nights ago, my friend, his younger sister and i went to his ex-fiancee's house. we wanted to tell her the good news and were hoping that it would somehow solve the problem. but the maid didn't let us in the house. apparently, it became a house rule not to let my friend enter their house.

upon hearing this, my friend's younger sister insisted to let her in instead hoping that somehow, my friend's ex-fiancee would hear her out. but the maid didn't let her. so, i talked to the maid instead. since we were not allowed to go in, i asked to call my friend's ex-fiancee out to get this over with. maybe with all these commotions that was going on, my friend's ex-fiancee's father came out, furious.

my friend told him what was going on and that we wanted to tell his daughter the good news. after explaining everything to him, he still didn't let us see her daughter. he told us to leave the subdivision immediately or else he'll have the guards escort us out.
all of us didn't want to leave that night but we had no choice.

we all thought that this problem will soon be over. i guess we were wrong, very wrong.

Don't worry, masosolve din yan. I guess, kailangan nyo lang tyempuhan yung friend nyo. Damage has been done, kailangan talaga ng konti pang tyaga.

sana nga ma-resolve SOON...

keep on praying. it works.

kawawa naman yung friend mo... i hope everything turns out ok, sana maging friends man lang sila nung ex-fiancee niya kahit na for the sake of their kid man lang...

i feel like a stalker now. i just got home, tired, sleepy and hungry because i was with my friend the whole morning.

why? well, my friend wanted us to follow her ex-fiancee to the hospital and maybe somehow he could get a chance to talk things over with her today. apparently, he found out that she is scheduled for her monthly check-up in Capitol Medical Center at 10am.

so as early as 8:18am, we were already parked along his ex-fiancee's street, just a few houses away (good thing i have no work today).

we were just inside the car, waiting for his ex-fiancee to come out of their house. we even had to use my car so we won't be recognized at all. we have our breakfast with us (courtesy of McDonalds'), bottled water, my pillow and extra shirts. believe it or not, we've been planning about this last night.

after hours of waiting, she finally came out. when she reversed the car from their garage, we had to duck down so we would not be seen. when her car already passed ours, i immediately started the car and made a u-turn so we can follow her now.

we didn't want her to suspect being followed so we were at least 2 cars behind her. we've been tailing her car from kamias then kamuning to tomas morato until we reached panay avenue.

when we got there infront of the hospital, my friend got out of the car as i parked the car away from where she parked. at this point, my friend will do the rest of the work
that has to be done while i will be waiting by the car.

after two hours, my friend texted that i meet him in the lobby. so, i locked the car and went to the main lobby. i was standing near the elevators, when my friend and his ex-fiancee came out. i was surprised. what was going on? was everything ok now?

i smiled as i approached them both. my friend said that the both of us are going to explain everything to her. why am i included? i thought. does he need my alibi in this?

we explained everything to her over one mocha frapuccino, one cafe latte, two snapples and a carrot cake in Starbucks tomas morato. my friend kept repeating to her how much he loves her and that he wanted to be with her and their baby while holding her hand. i noticed that she was often silent the whole time and listened to everything we said.

after an hour and 47 minutes, she said that she had to go now. we didn't stop her. as i said goodbye to her, my friend walked her to her car. from where i was sitting, i could see them still talking and from the facial expression my friend has, he was still assuring her of i-don't-know-what.

when his ex-fiancee-soon-to-be-fiancee-again had already left, my friend went in with a big sign of relief on his face. he kept thanking me, kept shaking my hand. he really was grateful. so i asked, what's their status now. he said that she wanted more time to think about the whole thing alone but at least he'd be able to see, visit or talk to her.

before my friend got down of the car when i gave him a ride home, he gave me a big hug.
i thought to myself, i really must be a great friend after all. never in my life have i done such an outrageous thing before for a friend. and definitely, this won't be the last.

alam mo... kala ko talaga girl ka... hehe... parang (no offense meant to other guys in general) you are so caring ang considerate for a guy... pati problema ng kaibigan mo, pinoproblema mo... i admire you for that god luck sa friend mo!

a girl? really? what made you think that i was? i dunno but when it comes to a friend, i can't say no.

and with this friend, we really are so close. we practically grew up together. he's more like a brother to me. and just seeing him so depressed, so down, just upsets me. and the situation he's in, who wouldn't pity him at all?

thanks for the admiration. touched ako.

as an update, well, my friend and his former ex-fiancee-now-reconciled-with are doing okay. he says they've been going out secretly because her parents doesn't know about it yet. his guess is that when her family knew about them sort-of-getting back together, they wouldn't like it even one bit.

i asked him about Dina if she was still calling him, and she still does in his office. my friend have decided to help her out somehow financially - check-ups, vitamins and so on. why? i dunno. i had to ask him the same question for i don't have any idea why he thought of such thing. his answer: PITY.

i do pity Dina as well but to support her financially, now that it has been medically proven that it ain't my friend's is a different question.

i talked my friend out of it. is he crazy? is he out of his mind? he just got back together with his ex-fiancee and now he is putting their relationship on the line again if she finds out about this.

my friend can really be such a pain in the a** sometimes.


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[ September 08, 2003: Message edited by: drawn2u ]

gesh! this "telenovela" material ought to be lesson enough for us guys. as per his helping dina, i'd say that's a very noble thing to do after all. he just ought to be transparent to his fiancee.

thinking about what you said, Icarus, it really does seem like a telenovela.

i just hope there really is a happy-ending at the end.

naku! bait naman yung friend mo, pero do discourage him in helping out the girl... mamya malaman yan nung fiancee niya, magkagulo pa ulit... although kawawa din naman yung dina pero wag na sanang maki-problema yung friend mo, gulo nanaman yan...

paki alamero daw ako????

that's what my friend told me, two hours and fifty-six minutes ago. bakit daw ba ako nakikialam? magulo na nga daw ang buhay niya, di pa daw ako nakakatulong? kumokontra pa daw ako sa mga desisyon niya na dapat bilang kaibigan niya, sumusuporta ako.

those were his exact words...

who dragged me into this whole mess? he did.
who asked for my help in all this? he did.
who pulled me off my bed just to follow his fiancee early in the morning? he did.

HE ALL DID!!!

p*cha, pare! ako na nga ang nag-mamagandang loob, ako pa ang naging masama. i wouldn't have done all this if he wasn't a friend at all.

i was just trying to talk him out of his situation with Dina that if possible try to end all connection he has with her and what, this is what i get?!?!?!


some friend he is, huh?

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[ September 10, 2003: Message edited by: drawn2u ]

up to now, my friend and i are still ain't talking.

ang hirap pala ng feeling kapag may kaaway ka lalo na't best friend mo din sya...

life ain't fair...

i would've thought that after all you did for your friend, he would've had at least heard you out... just goes to show how our friends can easily leave you when its them you're trying to set straight...

good luck to you though...

ewan ko lang ha... pero kakaasar yung friend mo. after all that you did for him, eto pa gaganti niya sayo. pero baka, he's just stressed out and is not thinking properly, pagpasensyahan mo muna... wag mo na lang muna kausapin para di lumalala yung gap niyo. sorry if im giving unsolicited advice, naaawa lang ako sayo...

thanks!

yeah, super stressed lang ata yung friend mo. i'm sure he didn't really mean to say that to you. pagpasensyahan mo na lang.

oo nga, pucha talaga! anak ng sardinas yan!.. sensya, medyo late na reaction ko. hehe.. pero sa totoo lang, kung ako yun, mahirap magtimpi. pota, sarap suntukin! pati ako, nagiging furious na. pero cool lang, he's still your friend no matter what.

^^Uu nga tukayo. hmnn.. siguro nga may mga times na mararamdaman mo na sinasabi na nila sayo na "PAKIALAMERO KA NA AH!" Get out of my Way!! Leave me Alone!! (kahit na hindi directly sinabi pero yun pa din yun)

hay. pero anong magagawa mo? diba? kaibigan ka lang. kaibigan mo sila. So ginawa mo lang ang part mo as his/her friend right? At least sinabi mo ang side mo. diba? kahit pa pasok sa kaliwang tainga.. at labas sa kanan.. lang. MAY IMPACT NAMAN.. naks.. hay
kaibigan mo pa rin sila.. tama.. hakhak